Harry Styles “The Womanizer”: Lucy Horobin


For our Harry Styles: The Womanizer posts, the masterpost of which you can find here (x), we’ve recently decided to look into the relationship between Harry and Lucy Horobin.

For those of you who don’t know who Lucy Horobin is, Harry was linked to her when he was 17, before he became involved with Caroline Flack (x). She was a radio DJ, who was, at the time of the affair, married to Oliver Pope.

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Take Me Home From Narnia: Support BeatBullying 1D petition


Kirsty was bullied online, but has since been trained, and is now training others to stand up against cyberbullying when they see it. She hopes that 1D will write a song about it.

You can join her petition to 1D here:

What About the Guys Who Do Fit the 'Gay Stereotype'?

  • The importance of a figure like Jason Collins extends beyond the celebrity factor: “People think gayness has something to do with femininity when really we just need to erase that stereotype from our minds,” he said. “LGBT people come in all different types and shapes and forms.”
  • Homophobia is a central organizing principle of our cultural definition of manhood.” Since homosexuality is associated with femininity, feminizing and anti-gay comments are the primary mechanism for enforcing the boundaries of masculinity. If a guy steps ever so slightly outside of gender norms, his peers will bring him back into line by calling his heterosexuality into question (which implicitly challenges his gender). The pressure to prove and re-prove hetereosexuality is part of what it means to “be a man”—and it pushes men to embrace both homophobia and hypermasculinity. “Homophobia, the fear of being perceived as gay, as not a real man, keeps men exaggerating all the traditional rules of masculinity, including sexual predation with women,” Kimmel wrote. “Homophobia and sexism go hand-in-hand.”
  • “It’s a very good and powerful conceptual shift to decouple sexuality and gender,” Risman explains. “That is, to show there are very masculine gay men and effeminate gay men, but there are very masculine straight men and effeminate straight men, too.”

But ask yourself: Why is there that knee-jerk rejection of any effort to “overthink” pop culture? Why would you ever be afraid that looking too hard at something will ruin it? If the government built a huge, mysterious device in the middle of your town and immediately surrounded it with a fence that said, “NOTHING TO SEE HERE!” I’m pretty damned sure you wouldn’t rest until you knew what the hell that was — the fact that they don’t want you to know means it can’t be good.

Well, when any idea in your brain defends itself with “Just relax! Don’t look too close!” you should immediately be just as suspicious. It usually means something ugly is hiding there.

- David Wong

This quote is in an article about superhero movies, but it applies to so many things.

(via thecharles)



On the 17th May 2013, International Day Against Homophobia, part of the Real Eyes campaign team took action on Twitter to try and reduce the amount of homophobic language used online.

This is a masterpost of the reactions we received and the conversations we had over our three accounts during the course of the day.

HUGE trigger warning for homophobic language and some racism.

We also haven’t blocked the name of our campaign accounts - feel free to go and follow @homefromnarnia, but please don’t try and contact the accounts featured in this post. Their names are blanked out to protect their privacy.

Here we go.

People who have no issue with it because ‘it’s a joke’:



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Listen up, twitter.  It’s not okay to say the word f***** if you have a friend or relative who’s gay.  It’s not okay to the use the word f***** if you’re gay or bi yourself.  It’s not okay to say the word n***** if you have a black friend.   It’s not okay to use the word n***** if you are black yourself. 

I realize that you see these words thrown about all the time - by your peers, by rappers, by comedians, and think that if others do it, it’s okay for you to do it too.  Or, that if you know people in that marginalized group or are marginalized yourself, it’s okay to use them.  Or, that if it’s only a joke, it’s okay to say it.  Or that if you support gay rights, you’re entitled to say whatever homophobic slurs you like because you don’t MEAN them.  The thing is, no one KNOWS your true intentions but you, least of all in 140 characters or less.  No one knows about your gay brother or the time you did a 5k for Gay Marriage.  When you use those words, no matter what you support or don’t support, you are aligning yourself with racism, with homophobia. 

F***** is not a neutral word.  N***** is not a neutral word.  These are words that have a history of violence, of oppression, of stripping others of their rights.  They do not exist in a bubble.  They do not stand alone.  These words have weight.  There is no humorous context for these words, there is no “silly” or “funny” way of using them.  It is not all right to use them just because you see other people doing so or because you feel you have some special “right” to them. 

Please take responsibility for your actions.  There is no rationalization for using these words.

Take Me Home From Narnia: May 17: International Day Against Homophobia - IDAHO


Tomorrow is the International Day Against Homophobia. This is a day for everyone, LGBT, ally, or indifferent, to take a stand against homophobia.

Prior to the first World Outgames, on July 26-29 2006, an International Conference on LGBT Community Human Rights was held in Montréal. It concluded…

something to talk about: OK. I don’t want to put a damper on anything, but. We need to stop...


OK. I don’t want to put a damper on anything, but. We need to stop relying on external media sources to bolster our faiths that what we believe is real. Richard Lawson is not going to save us. Neither is Ben Harvey or Blind Gossip. Looking to them for support is not really all that different than…

I’m not sure it’s about bolstering faith as much as it is about having allies.  (At least for me.  I can only really speak for myself.)  Do I think Richard Lawson is privy to some insider information we’re not?  Absolutely not.  He doesn’t know the boys.  I don’t have any reason and he hasn’t given us any reason to believe otherwise.  But I do think it helps to have another adult, another intelligent, articulate person (all the better because he’s outside the fandom and not as subject to its internal bias) who’s able to see through the smoke screen to the real situation at hand. 

And for me, it’s also about visibility.  I saw it as a victory not because it proves anything (one person’s opinion even if they are in a position of power proves nothing), but because a cog in the media machine is cranking out something positive about Harry Styles (even if it is couched in jokes and sarcasm). And not only that - but because nearly every comment on the article was intelligent and supportive and it didn’t break down or devolve into name-calling or Elounor vs Larry shippers.  (At least, the last I checked.)  And man, that is so refreshing after some of the outright lies about Harry in the press and the awful comments that usually follow.  

And I’m just….I’m tired of not being able to express my opinion in a public forum without being instantly dismissed, lumped together with people that send Eleanor hate or harass Louis or constantly tin-hat.  Being blamed for ruining Harry and Louis’ relationship.  Being called a fake fan.  I’m tired of hiding out on Tumblr because there is no other safe space for discourse.  (Don’t get me started on the rampant homophobia on twitter.)

You’re right; I don’t think we should idolize Richard Lawson.  He’s just a guy.  A guy who said in public what we’ve all been saying in private for ages.  But I don’t think we should ignore these moments either.  I think they could be part of a growing trend of opportunities for education and thoughtful discourse across the fandom.